This is where we work together to uncover unconscious ideas and dating patterns. There are three parts to this step which is why it takes an extra 30 minutes (total of 90 minutes). The three elements are; Defining your relationship values, Discovering your attachment style and visualising your “Happy Ever After”.

We work together to create a dating profile that accurately reflects who you are and, crucially, will attract quality matches. We will make sure that your feelings, needs, world views, identity and core values are clear. The right profile will rule out the wrong men, and avoid random likes and swipes.

Here we learn how to gently and effectively filter out the wrong matches at an early stage, saving time, energy and heartache. We will develop your own weed out questions to gauge alignment, emotional availability and emotional intelligence. These will be linked to your relationship values, needs and goals.

This is a vital topic and one we will return to. We will work on secure communication styles, how to express preferences, and how to flag your feelings without making it all about them. We will learn how to observe and how to know when silence IS communication.

Here we cover how to communicate with feeling. We work on being soft on the outside and strong on the inside. We learn to recognise when we are over functioning, and how to express boundaries whilst remaining curious. We will use ‘re-framing tools’ to keep the focus on you and not your match.

We will uncover how your attachment style is influencing your dating and relationships, including practical tips on how to avoid early attachment, the use of grounding tools, why circular dating helps, as well as learning about the chemistry trap. This step will help you identify others’ attachment styles and what these mean for you.

This step focuses on spotting red, amber and green flags. We look at tools to spot them and see how they can be navigated. We will also refine your list of personal red flags and see how to differentiate them from your pet peeves and how to manage these.

This is about falling in love with your own emotions, even those you don’t like, because without this, falling in love with someone else is probably too big an ask! You will learn how to connect with your emotions and understand how this helps in relationships. It may involve grounding rituals, silencing your inner critic and Somatic check-ins. This step also relates to our nervous system and how it reacts when we are triggered. Your “Happy Ever After” is now closer than ever before.